Monday, February 13, 2017

It's Time


It's been a very very long time
If you've been a reader here you've wondered...
If you're new it may strike you as odd that there's been no new updates for years.
There is no better way to explain than what I share now below
It's time 
And with this explanation, and the years that have elapsed since,
I'll add only that I'm dedicated to returning to glass and the art we both loved
and that I love still
Obituary of David Davis
 David Davis June 1, 1932 - October 24, 2014

David Davis, Dad


 It's a complex mixture of honor and pain to capture, in words, the personality and life of a remarkable person you deeply loved....

You didn't want a service or memorial or eulogy or wake. So typical of you. I hope you won't mind if I share some parts of your life here.
And I hope I share your story well Dad....

"Dave" as everyone called him spent his early life where he was born in Ithaca NY. His traps, trap lines and fishing rods were his constant companions. The woods and streams were his refuge. 
Until he met 'bunny' who stole his heart. 

After high school he began an apprenticeship at Cornell University but took leave from training to do his duty during the Korean War as a Navy mechanics mate. Upon return from the war his previous position at Cornell was no longer available so he was offered an apprenticeship as a scientific glassblower. It became a career he loved and which lasted over six decades. 

Within those years he won over the heart of "Jo" (Joyce) aka bunny, They married, had two children Faith and David R, moved often and for 61 years kept each other laughing and in love.

His corporate career took him from Cornell to Motorola, IBM, Xerox. Ultimately he created his own scientific glass business FayRan Glass. Over the course of his entire career he collaborated with scientists, professors and researchers around the globe creating laboratory glass apparatus systems as unique as each project. Anyone who knew him knew he loved a challenge. He was exacting and proud of his work, his innovations, his contributions to research and technology that he created by hand with his torches and glass.

Yet his career was only part of his life.

He held a lifelong respect and passion for the martial arts, both the teachings and the practice. He began to study and teach judo in the 1960's, ultimately running his own do-jo in Webster. Soon to follow was his passion for and mastery of Karate which never ended ~ he received his black belt at age 81. In the fifty years he devoted time to the martial arts and Tai Chi he most loved teaching all of the martial arts disciplines. He loved every one of his students, always encouraging them to 'find their personal best'.

He held a lifelong passion for learning new techniques for working glass. He studied at Corning in his sixties and seventies (joke being he outworked most of the far younger students lol). Again his passion turned to teaching - with existing and new skills he took the greatest joy in teaching. Many a happy hour were spent by Dave and his daughter teaching artistic glass-working at Morefire Studio in Rochester.

As they say on infomercials "but wait, there's more"

He was a fisherman, a conservationist, a mentor to anyone in need of an ear or advice. A man who LOVED his food, keeping the Lima diner (and other restaurants) in business single handed, lol. A man who was loyal beyond measure to his wife, his few close friends, family and students. He was always willing to lend a hand. He had a great sense of humor. Gave great hugs. Never ran out of energy - ever.

When faced with catastrophic illness he was courageous, upbeat and steadfast ~ he worried most about everyone else during each step of his journey. He complained only once ~ only one time through it all. It was an honor to be at his side and observe his strength each time he faced the seemingly endless series of difficult choices, appointments, treatments and tests. Throughout the 17 month battle Dad (and mom) taught me more than I could say about determination and strength, sacrifice and love.

There's so much more ~ yet nothing more ~ to say.

Remember him as the man he was. A special man who loved and was loved. A man who always knew his mind. A man who thrived on learning and teaching. A man who made the world a better place. A man who set the bar high. A man who will always be missed but leaves behind so many memories shared......

Love you Dad - always
Proud to be your daughter
Faye

*Private Services*

Saturday, May 12, 2012

On Mothers Day...

Everyone who wakes and begins their day today had a mother, she who gave breath and life.
Some have mothers they love. Some do not. Some have mothers who love them. Some do not.
Few are given the gift of a mother who loves them, who they love, a mom who is their best friend

I am one who was given such a treasure
 
My 'Mum' is so very many things to me
in this life of mine

She is my dearest most trusted female friend
my co-hort and co-conspirator

We talk of life of love
of growth and of loss
of challenge and of joy

We share time, cups of coffee
wing emails to each other
laugh, cry, hunt for treasures
analize the world
discussing how we each
fix what we can
discussing how some things
can not
be
fixed

Since my first step, my first word
she has never stopped teaching me
never stopped listening to me
never stopped 'being there' for me

She encourages me when I feel overwhelmed
(as in the pink 'bad day' image, lol)
She reminds me to keep paddling!
(as in the ducks image)
She ever-reminds-me to see the beauty in life
(as in the images of flowers)
She sees the best in me
while being able to be truthful & honest with me
She reminds me to keep growing and learning

She has never failed
to make me feel
loved

My greatest, deepest hope 
as my life continues to unfold
is that I do the same for you Mum
because
I love you 'so'

Happy Mothers Day

 



Friday, March 30, 2012

What Is Surprising

Q:  WHAT IS SURPRISING ABOUT LIFE?
(one way or another)

A: EVERYTHING....

Sunday, February 05, 2012

The Past Eight Weeks

Are windows better lended
to looking out or looking in?

Are weeks and months
spent pondering
for beginnings?
or for ends?

Do questions demand answers
or do they simply point the way...

Is thinking useful to the soul
or a tool used for delay?

Do searching thoughts find purpose,
direction, new design - or simply give
my heart a chance to stop, review,
're~find'?
             FDF 2/2012

Thursday, November 24, 2011

CYBER MONDAY SALE @ Studio Website

Yes Indeed
A Cyber Monday Sale
At the Studio Website!
Spin twirl hop happy dance fun!
Some new work
and some
Great Deals
So on Monday stop by
And
Say
Hi!

Wednesday, November 23, 2011


                                              HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE!





Wowie Zowie I've been busy! lol
I"m hoping to have some new and neat pieces ready for you
by Cyber Monday (how about a little sale?) Tho you know how
things shift and change so just check back here Monday :-)

Sunday, September 11, 2011

There have been so many things

That have seemed to need attention, time, effort.
Things that have resisted being moved to the 'later' list...
Things keeping me from being here. Keeping me from writing time.

Friends with worries who need an ear, a shoulder, a hug.
More hours tending needed by the studio, the business .
Some days I've stolen over the summer to spend with those I love.

Nothing wrong, just life running at a rate of speed
that's a half step faster than my step  :-)

Days sneak by
East to West
Sunrise to sunset
Weeks become
Months
Time slides by....

I've missed being here,
Sharing my tiny bits of my reality
With all of you who stop by
I'll be here more soon.
Promise
Don't give up on coming by....

Ten Years Ago ~ Remembered Always....

    September 11th  
 Pain, Honor, Loss, Pride, Disblief, Compassion
Remember Always Those For Whom Time Stopped That Day
Both Living And Departed...

Monday, July 25, 2011

Good Things Happen (still)

I'm not sure where the last four weeks have gone, quietly slipping past.
Amid scorching heat and non-specific bustling hither and thither and yon (isn't 'thither' a neat word? and 'yon' is kind of intersting too, lol) week upon week elapsed.

Time does that.
It's immensely present hour by hour but in larger increments it's difficult to quantify or track aside from the intermittent glance at the wall calendar (yes I still use one - the epitomy of low tech - why I like it suppose).

But amid the last few weeks one remarkable event is noteworthy.
One event speaks to two other event tied by a heartwarming thread.

One evening, of one week, my husband mentioned to me  he'd crossed paths with a gentleman who was turned around in his directions, distraught about arriving on time for an appointment. Alone and upset my husband took him directly to the location of his appointment (the sort of thing he often does). They chatted a bit about life, the world, handsakes were exchanged and the gentleman headed thru the door to his appointment.

One afternoon, another week, in wallymart, I came across a woman struggling to lift some portable folding tables into her shopping cart (those 'portable tables' are heavy! lol). I asked her if I could give her a hand and we made short work of it. She mentioned she was picking them up for a special party her daughter was planning.  Smiles and thanks/welcomes exchanged I went on to shop and she, to cash out.

One late afternoon, of yet another week my husband and I were struggling to lift a VERY heavy item into our ancient old vehicle. We're pretty experienced at finding ways to do the unlikely if not impossible task, lol. But this was vexing us. We couldn't muscle it in. We'd failed at drawing it in from the inside via a heavy packing blanket. We couldn't get it to roll up the ramps we'd pulled from the garage. And did I mention it was 98 in the shade that day? We were standing, staring, when a SUV drove by, turned around and came back. As it pulled over to our side of the road the driver called out "would you like some help"?

Hating to bother him we laughed and said we weren't sure it had beat us yet, but again he asked and was out of his car on his way to help.  In moments the impossible item was securely placed.  Smiles, thanks and handshakes were exchanged.  I mentioned what he'd done gave me hope in  humanity. He smiled broadly. In moments he was back in his car, on his way down the road. We headed out shortly thereafter.

It's really so easy to make the world a better place. To instill a bit of hope. To affirm we're all along for the ride of life together.

And is a coincidence that Karma and Kindness both begin with K? I think not.

Doing something kind does make a difference. It does have an impact. Especially if you're on the receiving side. But it's equally impressive to the heart and mind being the giver of help or kindness. The world does sense and register your choices, your efforts. Even the smallest ones. The ways of the world rise, fall and alter ~ one nano-effort, one choice at a time.

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Dad...

Dad, From the beginning


We've been close
We've been friends



You've been with me for every important step
In my life


You've taught me, shown me no dream is out of my reach


You've taught me how much it matters
to find time for the people you love


You've  protected me from bugs LOL
(as quickly as you can grasshopper, hit the horse-fly!)


You've shared the world with me (Pre-Paris Flight)


Watching you and Mom


You've shown me 
what loyalty and love
and marriage are about



You continue teaching me Dad
About glass, about life, about
marriage, about goals.
You teach me to
always ALWAYS become
a better person


You've taught me that goals are
for ALL of life ~ that any goal or
dream is always achieveable
if you're willing to work for it
(Picture: Black Belt awarded to my father at age 78)

Even now, with grey hair on both of us
(tho I'm not admitting to a day over 35, lol)
you keep teaching me, by example and by word.
You keep teaching and I'll keep learning....
I love you Papa

Saturday, May 07, 2011

Happy Mothers Day Mum....

Mum
I'm one of the lucky women who had a wonderful mother in childhood
that grew to become my best female friend in adulthood.....

My mother has always found it easy to smile
(and loved jewelry as do I, lol)

(I think I have her eyes)


June Bride with her Navy Guy (Dad!)
No matter where we lived (amid numerous moves between east and west coast)
she created "magic" ~ christmas in tiny walk up apartments, special handmade birthday cakes......
Her spin on life has always been choose to be happy because there is
always something to be happy about!


She taught me how to roll my hair,
to wear a hat, to use makeup.
She also taught me to believe in
myself, to speak my mind (kindly)...
She taught me the universe did not
(does not, will not ever) revolve 'round me.
But as she taught me that also let me know
how loved I was, how loved I am....

She set(s) an example still that it's nice to
feel important but it's more important to be nice...

She taught me to dream, to expect
the unlikely. Santa, Easter Bunny,
Good over Evil. A career as a working artist.

She taught me to be a lady
who could also do any task
a man could do


She still is AMAZING, still my best girlfriend
we still laugh, she still teaches me about life...


Happy 'Mum's Day' Mom
Love you, love you, love you!



Wednesday, May 04, 2011

No Different Yet Special

You are, by all definition, a handful of bulbs
A tiny smattering of the millions if not billions
That each Spring, past present and future
Awake from the earth to 'be'..

Each of you here with me is like your sisters
Inhabiting countries, islands, states, cities, towns
Your existance is linked to pots, plots and windowboxes
Of warming earth

You, each of you, who I think of as 'mine'
Are no different than your sisters
Heads raised to the faltering returning
Gentle Spring Sun
No different
Yet Special

I remember the day I found each of you
I was with my Mum at a big box store

I recall the sign that proclaimed your value
was designated by retail to be no more than 50 cents each
I was saddened and annoyed that they valued you so little

I was brokenhearted to hear the plan was to trash each of you
who went 'unpurchased'
by that weeks end...

I smile remembering my mother at my side
Helping me place as many of you into my cart as we could fit
Saving as many of you as the budget would allow
(I whispered a sad word of apology to those I could not save)

Driving home, she and I talked of gardens, of growth, of time
And in the coming days I planted you, one by one
In half frozen earth covering you with thatch to hide you
(a tiny bit)
from grazing hungry searching deer

Fragments of memory
Moments of time
Frozen in my soul
That come alive each Spring
Along with your return

You are no different
Than your millions, billions, zillions
Of sisters over the world,
thru ever returning Springs

But you are special
You who I think of
as
mine

FDFerris 2011



Saturday, April 16, 2011

Kindness, Care, Words

 In the best of times
the kindness we give
elevates us....

In the worst of times
the kindness we give
defines us

Kind Care Can Be Given
At Not The Cost Of A Penny
But it always costs a moment of time
It always requires thinking
Beyond
Your
Self

In return 
Kindness dividends
In ways
No stock market can steal
No government can tax
No passage of time can ever erase
fdf 2011


(With thanks to Ronni & Darlene for sharing this video link)

Friday, April 15, 2011

Old Friends

Old Friends
Ever Patient
They Wait For Me
One By One
They Came To Live With Me
Shelf By Shelf
They Became
Old Friends


Friday, April 08, 2011

The Internet Really Makes Me Laugh Sometimes!

This reminded me...
Years ago, (and this is a true story) we had a possum
stay with us briefly sheltering in the corner an open out-building.
She had her new babies in tow. We immediately 
noticed that one was different. Ma Possum had adopted a 
tiny wayward orphaned kitten somewhere along her travels.
She raised it with great success.
The kitten* not only survived, it thrived.
Apparently happy & healthy it nursed and frolicked with
its possum brothers and sisters. Eventually they all moved on.

*I've often wondered if the little guy suffered from identity or lifestyle issues, lol*
 

On my jewelry bench

A peek at a piece currently 'in progress' on my jewerly bench at the moment....
(one of my lampwork beads, pearls, etc)
Well, on my leg actually lol
(too many bits spread out on the bench to take a picture I confess)
I find blue such a soothing and
calming color ~ to the eye and the heart.

Friday, April 01, 2011

Spring in NY

Ah April in NY....
The Excitement of "Spring"!
Look! Look!
You can see ground (amid the snow)

You can see the snow shovels!
(as opposed to having to dig them from a
drift so you can dig snow away from the walks and drive)
Look! More snow is gently falling
(as opposed to blowing horizontally at 45mph)
Only a "small accumulation" is expected today!
(not 10-14 inches)
Oh April in NY...
Relief at last! lol
And before anyone asks, no this is NOT an April fools joke*
(*this pic was added today a la my phone camera)
If only it was an April fools joke ...